{"id":289,"date":"2011-11-18T13:05:47","date_gmt":"2011-11-18T17:05:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/adrenalinedrash.com\/?p=289"},"modified":"2011-12-10T21:46:22","modified_gmt":"2011-12-11T01:46:22","slug":"hundreds-of-kardashians","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adrenalinedrash.com\/?p=289","title":{"rendered":"Hundreds of Kardashians"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Image<\/a>1 cup laughter
\n1 cup joyful tears
\n1 cup solemnity
\nA dash of the wholly unexpected
\nA pinch of utter zaniness<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a recipe for a perfect wedding.<\/p>\n

I learned this recipe after officiating at a number of weddings this past year.<\/p>\n

One featured a bride wearing a powerfully red dress. Her groom wore a kilt. The procession was accompanied by bagpipes. Another wedding I officiated took place in a horse arena (beautifully decorated, I must add) and featured my son, Erik, playing a Chassidic tune on his accordion for the wedding processional and a bluegrass band taking over for the dancing bit.<\/p>\n

Just last weekend, I helped out a tad at the wedding of two devout and loving Christians.<\/p>\n

The bride and groom were former students of mine \u2013 in fact, they had met in my class \u201cWomen in the Hebrew Bible\u201d at UNC-Charlotte. Leah is an engaging young woman with a great gift:\u00a0She is original. Steven is thoughtful, gracious, and gentle.<\/p>\n

Both are all about tikkun olam<\/em><\/a>. They work steadily and consciously to change the world in all manner of ways. When they got engaged, they asked if I could be part of the wedding.<\/p>\n

I got to meet the gentleman who was responsible for the lion\u2019s share of the\u00a0 ceremony just moments before the ceremony began. Dennis Teall-Fleming serves the Open Hearts Gathering (http:\/\/www.openheartsgathering.org<\/a>). After a few minutes of conversation, I knew that\u00a0Dennis was not the sort to read\u00a0prepared text or drone on at the couple and their guests. I breathed a sigh of relief. I dislike when officiants drone.<\/p>\n

Dennis opened the ceremony with one, simple word. First, he looked out at all the folks who had gathered under the dark, nighttime sky.<\/p>\n

\u201cMehwidge\u2026\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

After the laughter died down, Dennis announced that he had just learned a brand-new way to measure time. \u201cOne Kardashian,\u201d he explained to all assembled, is the same thing as saying \u201cseventy-two days.\u201d This is the exact length of time that celebrity Kim Kardashian managed to stay married. More laughter.<\/p>\n

Dennis had been married over sixty Kardashians, he said, and he was hoping that Leah and Steve would be blessed with many Kardashians of their own. (I started calculating in my head. My husband, Ralf, and I have about 150 Kardashians to our credit. Golly.)<\/p>\n

As we both spoke about this couple\u2019s commitment to the world around them, their passion for social justice, their willingness to love, their eyes \u2013 and the eyes of their guests \u2013 grew shiny. \u00a0We had our cupful of tears.<\/p>\n

Then came the dash of the unexpected.<\/p>\n

I had been told that Leah and Steven wanted to read their own vows. When Leah looked at me in panic because Dennis had moved to the next part of the
\nceremony, I turned to him.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe forgot something,\u201d I said. Then I boldly announced that that the couple\u00a0would now be sharing the vows they had written to one another.<\/p>\n

Leah looked at me in utter confusion. I looked at her in utter confusion. She\u00a0 explained.<\/p>\n

They had fully intended to read them \u2013 but only to one another. Leah had thrown me that first anxious look because she thought Dennis and I had forgotten to give them a chance to kiss.<\/p>\n

I promised Steven and Leah that they would surely get to kiss. More laughter.<\/p>\n

\u201cI am afraid you will not<\/em> be privy to Leah and Steven\u2019s vows, after all,\u201d I said. \u201cAs we all know, it is the prerogative of the bride and groom to keep secrets from even their most beloved friends and family. Of course,\u201d I added, \u201cthose who want to pry may do so\u2026 after the ceremony.\u201d<\/p>\n

Folks chuckled, Dennis played along nicely and we went back to blessing the\u00a0young couple before us.<\/p>\n

A cupful of solemnity.<\/p>\n

The starry night sparkled over our heads. I stood before and with people who\u00a0believe differently than I do. And yet, I am certain that holiness exists wherever\u00a0commitment and love are found. The sacredness of life itself is revealed to us\u00a0in such moments, no matter who we are.<\/p>\n

We stretched out our arms. I sang in Hebrew; Dennis rendered in English that ancient\u00a0and timeless prayer.<\/p>\n

Y\u2019varekh-khah Adonai v\u2019yish-m\u2019rekhah<\/em>.
\nMay God bless you and keep you.<\/p>\n

Ya-er Adonai panav eilekhah vi-chunekah.<\/em>
\nMay God\u2019s face shine upon and God be gracious to you.<\/p>\n

Yisah Adonai panav eilekhah v\u2019yasem lekhah shalom<\/em>.
\nMay God smile upon you and give you peace.<\/p>\n

Then, finally, the kiss. Leah and Steven turned to their friends and families and the music began playing. We laughed as they raised their arms in triumph and walked down the stairs to the Star Wars theme.<\/p>\n

A pinch of utter zaniness.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a good recipe if you want to begin your life together with all the things marriage needs. Marriage certainly needs solemn commitment over the long haul. But zaniness and the unexpected have to be part of the mix, too; no one knows what life will bring. Couples have to know and cultivate humor \u2013 there is always a need for more laughter in this world. Tears will be part of your years together. Hopefully, most will be of joy.<\/p>\n

This is my wish and my blessing: May the loving\u00a0couples of the world be blessed with a good recipe.<\/p>\n

And hundreds of Kardashians.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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